Originally Posted by colour-me-confused
I know it hurts to think of her dating but don't let it deter you. my ex was dating as well when he decided to try to reconcile ... and as therefore very distant with me. He broke up with this other girl because he missed me (they started dating just two weeks after we separated). He told me that dating made him feel less lonely for a while, but it also reminded him how great I was and everything I did for him.
I hurts like hell to think about her "hanging out" with other guys, as she calls it. I am hoping that my outcome will be similar to yours in that she realizes that maybe I wasn't so bad. But she says that after all these years, she's tired of trying. Maybe I should just move on and stop trying to hold on to her. It's hard because I love her so much. In the 180 degree Divorce Buster plan, they say to be patient. I'm trying, but I think my chances of reconciliation are fading fast. I know that she's corresponding with several guys and I'm hoping that this will get old to her at some point, but I just don't know, especially if she's having the fun she says our marriage lacked. All I can do is continue to pray. Man this sucks.