Originally Posted by separatedmomof3
OK, I have never heard of this but googled it and read the list of things you are not supposed to do. How are you supposed to reconcile if you don't plan dates, don't buy gifts, don't call, don't talk. I am not saying it won't work because I have not done it but it seems like if your spouse left you and you pull away they will say "yea this is going to be easier than I tought!"
Does not make much sense to me.
From what I've read about it, it's basically doing the opposite of what you've been trying. I've been doing, since she made her desire known, everything that the list says not to do and all it's done is cause her to be defensive and more distant. I don't want more space between us so by stopping everything I was doing, the saying "I love you", the talk about our good points, the spying, the moping, and all of that stuff but it has not worked. I willing to try anything right now. I want her to see that I am strong no matter the case. I want her to see that I am capable of moving forward. I want her to see that I can and will change. If it doesn't work, then I will have the confidence and the lessons to be able to handle the next relationship. Posted via Mobile Device