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greeneyeddolphin · 10-26-2010, 08:06 AM

I don't know anyone who has ever had to show proof that they finished high school. They mark that they did and that's the end of it.

As for truck driving....my boyfriend is an otr truck driver. Truthfully, truck driving is one career in which he would have very little difficulty finding work. However, to make the really good money, he has to go otr (over the road). He will be gone, at a minimum, 2-4 weeks at a time, and only home for 2-4 days. He will be driving all day, dealing with horrible drivers who cut him off, hover next to him, and generally drive him insane. He'll miss out on lots of things with the kids, and in an emergency, won't be there. He can get there, but he won't be there almost instantly. That said, with the right company and some serious dedication to busting butt, he can make good money doing it. Which means that if his true desire is going to Europe, truck driving won't work for him.

I can definitely see where you are coming from. You don't want to uproot your family and move to another country in the hope that he'll get a job there. At the same time, though, sometimes you do have to make a drastic change in order to make things better.

One thing you might consider pointing out to him: money is so tight he's worried you'll have to sell the house. How does he propose to pay to move to Europe? It's going to be very expensive. You'll have to pay to move all your stuff over there. Or if you don't take your stuff, then you'll have to pay to replace it all. Either way, it's going to require money.

I don't know how big your house is, so I don't know if this is an option for you, but perhaps you can take on a roommate? Maybe you have a relative who needs a place to stay while getting back on their feet after a divorce or job loss or something that could stay with you guys and contribute financially to the household. Or a friend.

Other than that, I think your sister is right that you might find an apartment that will accommodate his work truck. Might have to look longer than you would otherwise, but I'm sure they're out there.

10-26-2010, 08:06 AM	#3 (permalink)
greeneyeddolphin Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 1,492	Re: Dilemmas... I don't know anyone who has ever had to show proof that they finished high school. They mark that they did and that's the end of it. As for truck driving....my boyfriend is an otr truck driver. Truthfully, truck driving is one career in which he would have very little difficulty finding work. However, to make the really good money, he has to go otr (over the road). He will be gone, at a minimum, 2-4 weeks at a time, and only home for 2-4 days. He will be driving all day, dealing with horrible drivers who cut him off, hover next to him, and generally drive him insane. He'll miss out on lots of things with the kids, and in an emergency, won't be there. He can get there, but he won't be there almost instantly. That said, with the right company and some serious dedication to busting butt, he can make good money doing it. Which means that if his true desire is going to Europe, truck driving won't work for him. I can definitely see where you are coming from. You don't want to uproot your family and move to another country in the hope that he'll get a job there. At the same time, though, sometimes you do have to make a drastic change in order to make things better. One thing you might consider pointing out to him: money is so tight he's worried you'll have to sell the house. How does he propose to pay to move to Europe? It's going to be very expensive. You'll have to pay to move all your stuff over there. Or if you don't take your stuff, then you'll have to pay to replace it all. Either way, it's going to require money. I don't know how big your house is, so I don't know if this is an option for you, but perhaps you can take on a roommate? Maybe you have a relative who needs a place to stay while getting back on their feet after a divorce or job loss or something that could stay with you guys and contribute financially to the household. Or a friend. Other than that, I think your sister is right that you might find an apartment that will accommodate his work truck. Might have to look longer than you would otherwise, but I'm sure they're out there.