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The doctor said most of my husbands problem was genetic. He has a family history of diabetes and heart trouble. Since his heart attack, he was diagnosed with diabetes too and has to shoot himself twice a day with insulin. Plus all the medications for his heart. He is a very active man and he dips, but rarely smokes.
I am almost convinced now after talking to some people and hearing online comments, that my husband is merely trying to find the guy that he once was; the guy I fell in love with. His steady changes over the past year have me realizing that he didn't know what to do but just go mellow...... He went from having control and taking control to not having control or not taking the initiative about stuff. My friends thought he was "loosing up" and getting more relaxed with stuff. But all along, he was suffering. I wish I could have seen this. I doubt I could have done anything then because I too was suffering from the same control issue. These past few weeks have let me see that I do too was suffering from all the stress and problems at my work, with the kids and their sports, with the money and not having as much to pay the bills like we did before he had a heart attack. So many things piled up; its hard to see outside of it. Until something like this happens and it wakes you up....... and makes you see it.
Hopefully there is still a chance to let time heal and repair. That is what we are going to try and maybe, hopefully, we will find each other again.
As for the sex, I am probably using him as much as he is using me..........hahaha. But I do see your point EVENOW, and I probably do need to stop the sex before our feelings are hurt. I just needed to know and to make sure he knew that sex wasn't our problem.. and I think we are sure of that now. It doesn't fix everything but it sure helps.