jamesa

Ok, to answer the OP's original question. I had a similar experience when I was in my 20s.

My girlfriend, who had previously been an enthusiastic smoker decided to quit and asked me to do the same. She suddenly became anti-marijuana and also anti the friends who I smoked with.

The reality of the situation was that she was insecure, with reason as it turned out, and saw this part of my life as a threat to her. Does your girlfriend want you to stop because she is worried about your health? Is she against it morally? Or does she feel threatened by the group you smoke with and what you get up to?

Try and find out why and then decide if her reasons are valid and you feel it is worth giving up for her sake.

My wife and I are both successful professionals with two healthy, well-adjusted kids and we smoke regularly. Our marriage has lasted 10 years and we have been together for 16. We have had our issues, like any other couple, but so far we have managed to overcome them.

Marijuana has played no part in the difficulties we have had and has not prevented us from being successful and happy. Often a therapeutic smoke on the terrace followed by a cuddle and love-making session has helped us to deal with the stresses and strains of daily life.

Should you smoke? No, of course not. Drawing hot smoke into your lungs is a bad idea, but we need to be balanced and mature about our approach to one of the least harmful drugs known to mankind. This 'evil weed' paranoia just makes kids lose faith in the judgement of adults, with negative consequences when it comes to truly dangerous drugs like cocaine and heroine.