Originally Posted by Brennan
I think his emotions run high when it comes to sex. He has to feel connected to me, in love and close. Perhaps he doesn't feel this. He has told me many times that I am difficult to talk to/with. It is frustrating because the words that come out of his mouth do not match his actions and I call him out on that. Maybe that makes me hostile to him."You're hot", "You are the love of my life", "You are so sexy" but then the actions are he watches television and plays on a computer. TMI....when we are in bed he DOES make me feel that way. He doesn't initiate though.
Basically you are telling me that your husband thinks of sex like a chick does. Connection then sex.
The more common male response is sex to feel connection. That is certainly the world I live in and the way I feel.