macmonkey

Greetings,

Me and my wife have been married for just over a year. We dated for nearly 7 years before that and have been best friends since day one.

Just before our marriage she started getting in touch with her spirituality which I assumed was a phase. I am a believer and go to church regularly. I had great parents who were christians but didn't go to church. They truly were wonderful people with a lot of success and friends. My wife's parents weren't so lucky. Her mother committed suicide when my wife was young and her father was never the same being reclusive and having a bad gambling problem amongst other things. He is a nice guy but isn't all there in my opinion.

I really don't have a problem with my wifes spiritual journey and in fact I support her to a degree. At this point she is choosing not to participate in Holloween or Christmas. This has really shocked me and I am angry, upset, confused and a number of other emotions.

This is brand new for her. Never in the past 8 years has it been any kind of issue. She won't carve a pumpkin with me, she won't help me put up a christmas tree, etc..

I encouraged her to go talk to her pastor and he put her in her place by telling her she's being a little bit out of line following these crazy extreme views of christianity and now she's ignoring him.

It may seem very trivial and stupid but the Holidays were an extremely bright time in my life growing up (like many of us) and I want my kids to have the same when they grow up. Unfortunately I can't imagine moving forward and having kids knowing that she'll be trying to instill this same (in my view extreme) view of christianity.

I really don't know what to do. She continues to talk to her father whom in my opinion is nobody to be handing out life advice. I just don't where to go from here.

We have had discussion after discussion and fight after fight about this issue but it's going nowhere.