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Originally Posted by Rob774  Should you or should you not do what? Join a gym?
I'm kinda a lost here. Seems like to me your husband has a long list of things you need to do better to save your marriage. Is this like an ultimatum? Call his bluff and remind him on how much he'll have to pay for child support.
Lose weight when you are ready to.
If he complains about the house being messy, hand him a broom!!!
If he complains about s3x, tell him to last longer, and perhaps you'll be more interested.
I don't know seems like a lot of your issues can be dealt with very easily if your man is understanding enough. |
Thanks Rob774.....yes, the question was whether or not to join.....
These things are not things he's told me to change, they are the things that made him ask for a divorce, because he just can't handle it anymore....he feels like I don't care about him enough to hear him all these years...
Well, to be honest....I heard him but I didn't realize the seriousness....maybe it was a little stubbornness too, because my dad used to tell me what I have to do all the time and would nag and just be a pain....so I felt a little like a child again and would think "I'll do it when
I am ready to do it !!!"....
It's not an ultimatum since he's made it clear that it's over when he told me he wants a divorce and there's nothing I can do about it....trust me, I begged and pleaded, saying I will change for real this time....but his therapist told him I will never change anyway and he believed it....
He helps out at home...he cooks, does the dishes, mops and sweeps, vacuums when he's not working (he works weekends) and on the weekends I do all this plus some more....
Tell him if he'd last longer I'd be more interested ??? Hell no....he has no problem with lasting long
....our issue was me being too tired all the time, but amazingly with my weight loss I've already got more energy
So I'm doing this all because I realized, with or without him, I have to change my life.....
If we get divorced I have to be able to provide for myself and the kids (besides the child support) and this would be hard if I stay in this job I'm in right now......
And if he reconsiders and wants to give us another chance well then I would love to change to make the marriage better than before....to make the marriage the way it was supposed to be.....
Either way I have to change !!!!!!
