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bunnicula · 10-30-2010, 12:12 PM

Hello all,

I am going through a lot of emotional turmoil regarding my relationship... and we're on our honeymoon right now!

I have been with my husband for about 2.5 years. He is tender, devoted, hilarious, sensitive, and kind. He is the best person I've ever met. He caters to my every need and works hard to provide for both of us. I honestly think he is the best man on earth. But...

I can't tell what's missing, I just feel unsure about whether I'm with the right person. About whether getting married was the right thing. I can't tell if these are normal feelings or not. But they are causing me immense anxiety and guilt.

To give some background, I was with a different man for 7 years; 3 years ago, he left me very suddenly. That relationship was deeply unhealthy but also wildly passionate. We were engaged to be married when he broke it off. Even though it was bad news, I do miss that wild passion we had. My relationship now is very calm, very tame, in comparison.

I don't know what's going on right now but it's pure torture. I feel detached from my husband and distant. Are there any women out there who felt the same, even though they were with the right person? Anyone who felt like this after marriage? I want to give myself a break here because my thoughts are giving me excruciating anxiety, stress, and even some depression right now. I worry that having doubts automatically means I shouldn't have gotten married.

Thanks.

10-30-2010, 12:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
bunnicula Registered User Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 8	anxious on my honeymoon Hello all, I am going through a lot of emotional turmoil regarding my relationship... and we're on our honeymoon right now! I have been with my husband for about 2.5 years. He is tender, devoted, hilarious, sensitive, and kind. He is the best person I've ever met. He caters to my every need and works hard to provide for both of us. I honestly think he is the best man on earth. But... I can't tell what's missing, I just feel unsure about whether I'm with the right person. About whether getting married was the right thing. I can't tell if these are normal feelings or not. But they are causing me immense anxiety and guilt. To give some background, I was with a different man for 7 years; 3 years ago, he left me very suddenly. That relationship was deeply unhealthy but also wildly passionate. We were engaged to be married when he broke it off. Even though it was bad news, I do miss that wild passion we had. My relationship now is very calm, very tame, in comparison. I don't know what's going on right now but it's pure torture. I feel detached from my husband and distant. Are there any women out there who felt the same, even though they were with the right person? Anyone who felt like this after marriage? I want to give myself a break here because my thoughts are giving me excruciating anxiety, stress, and even some depression right now. I worry that having doubts automatically means I shouldn't have gotten married. Thanks.