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Originally Posted by TwyztedChyck  ~Wow, all this changing to meet his demands/requirements/needs. Believe it or not (being a psychic I forsee the 'or not') there is someone for everyone who doesn't require anything from you except love, 100% faithful pure love. My mama always said "If it don't come easy, ya better let it go" - its an old Tanya Tucker song but still rings true, you shouldn't have to change or conform for anybody nor they for you. Love isn't "I will love you IF you do/become this or that". True love is "I love you right now, regardless." Never ever change for somebody or try to change somebody. Its already a lost cause.
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Ok....again....I'm
NOT changing for him....
He gave me the push I needed to start making the changes that should have happened a long time ago.....
I never wanted to look this horrible....
I want to look sexy again.....
I want to make good money so I can go to the store and buy something unplanned....not like "Oh, I only have money for jackets and pants for the boys, I can't afford this shirt for myself....maybe next payday".....
I want the house to look nice....I don't want to be embarrassed when having surprise guests....
All these things are things we
both want....
He's doing his part....he went to college again and got a degree in criminal justice to be a cop to make a good living....
for us
He is saving money like crazy.....
for us
He's going for runs and works out to stay fit.....
for us
I haven't been contributing much to this marriage and he had to work twice as hard to the point where he is just totally burned out and thinks he's better off without me....
I've come to the realization that I've failed and I am making the changes that will make me a better person....
with or without him 