| | Re: it's not just an itch anymore...
You need to be honest with your husband. Has nothing to do with whether or not you ever loved him. He sounds like a good guy and doesn't deserve what you are putting him through.
If you didn't love your husband, you should have broke it off with him, before ever getting involved with your old flame. You are a cheater. Doesn't matter if you never loved him? You are married to him.
Tell him and let him have a chance at a life with someone that actually cares about him.