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evenow · 10-31-2007, 09:31 PM

Oh wow. I'm going to be completely honest and I know I'm going to sound terrible--but here goes.

I would see a tremendous role reversal. I would feel almost like a parent taking care of a child and that would probably show in the way I spoke and interacted with them. On a personal level I would feel a little overwhelmed and resentful, thinking that I could only rely on myself to take care of us both. On top of that, guilt--because I know he would be feeling emasculated and resentful for me having to take care of him.

There would probably be fights with no resolution because of this. He might contemplate suicide and I would contemplate leaving him. We'd probably need to find new hobbies that were less physical and go to counseling to help us move on from the disability.

Cliff notes version, of course.

10-31-2007, 09:31 PM	#3 (permalink)
evenow Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 137	Re: How would you cope? Oh wow. I'm going to be completely honest and I know I'm going to sound terrible--but here goes. I would see a tremendous role reversal. I would feel almost like a parent taking care of a child and that would probably show in the way I spoke and interacted with them. On a personal level I would feel a little overwhelmed and resentful, thinking that I could only rely on myself to take care of us both. On top of that, guilt--because I know he would be feeling emasculated and resentful for me having to take care of him. There would probably be fights with no resolution because of this. He might contemplate suicide and I would contemplate leaving him. We'd probably need to find new hobbies that were less physical and go to counseling to help us move on from the disability. Cliff notes version, of course.