I have been married 20 years. I love to pamper and I know my wife is a crock-pot, I'm a microwave! I thought I would maybe start the day off by plugging in the crock-pot....so-to-speak! Yesterday I took a video on my cell phone of myself drying off after showering, and I sent it in a txt msg to my wife. (12 seconds long) It was tasteful, from the chest down, fully nude....and it didn't do a thing for her?!? (Jokes on me I guess) I asked her about it and she said she preferred seeing it in person, yet I shower every day and she never cares to watch me dry off. (Should have been a clue right?) I just wanted to spice things up, but her reaction of bla, bla, bla kind of burst my bubble! It's not like I do this every day! I was actually arroused all day thinking about her watching it! I was proud of myself as it turned out really well, as I edited it and factored in lighting! If she would have sent that to me, I would have watched it all day! So, knowing her I suppose that a visual of me drying off is no more arousing then watching the news! I was just wondering if there is something visual that I could do that would really make her spin! I could ask her, and I will, but is there anything visually stimulating for a women that her husband could do? Would it be more of a pic of me dressed in a suit and tie, or simply me in my underwear? I would love to do more of this, and I would love it if she would also, but not if only one of us is turned on! Just before bed, she hinted that maybe we could have sex as there was "some teasing" today. Referring to the video. Then she proceeded to tell me she made sure she deleted it off of her phone. We have two teen-age boys...and you just never know! She had a rough day, she was very tired and I knew it would have been all for me. (You know....obligation sex, sympathy sex....the kind I really don't like) That is really not what I wanted, although I appreciated her thoughtfullness, I politely declined and she was asleep before her head hit the pillow. I laid there awake wondering what I could do. I guess in all honesty, I would love to tease her and visually make it so she would "want me" in a sexual way, not just give me her body to make me happy. Thats all.....any comments would help!