chccamaro

I think it is great that you are going to counseling and trying to work things out...but the main point of this is...if you are not happy where you are and it does not sound like you truly are....it is not fair to you or to him to keep the marriage going...I always feel that divorce should be the last thing to happen but if one of the partners is not happy it will eventually take a toll on the relationship and cause stress between both partners. This is just my opinion...I have been in my relationship for about four years...I am very secure with things and would NEVER cheat on him even if the situation arose and it has. The fact that you did may indicate that you really are not happy. But kudos for wanting to work on your marriage...it shows that you do care about him and his feelings as well as your own and you are to be commended.

Also, you mentioned something about his children being older and not the most welcoming. They should respect you no matter what your age.