Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - 2 girls taking me out

cheewagacheewaga · 10-07-2008, 08:05 PM

I find it to be offensive because it hasn't really brought any positive results for me, at least the results I want in terms of taking it to a real relationship with a woman. To me, being non-threatening and too honest comes across as weak and effeminate. If these were good traits for a relationship, as you say, then I would have my pick of the ladies, but I don't. Instead I end up with a lot of female friends who see me as a nice guy male friend, like a boy toy. That's why I'm not sure what these 2 girls want from me. Do they like toying with me? I've only had 1 girlfriend, and that was back in high school when I pretended to be a bad boy skater guy. Now I'm 28 years old and truly being myself: a nerdy computer guy who loves to do introverted activities like golf, chess, and play the violin. I haven't had a date or a girlfriend since high school, and that was 10+ years ago!!! Something about me is wrong, and that much I know, since I'm the common denominator in all these failures. There are other things about me that I cannot change, or easily change, like my ethnicity, height, skin problems, and lack of money. I'm just trying to work with what I got and it's been very disappointing. So the only thing I can do is use my brain and move myself up in terms of career and money, and that's my #1 goal right now.

10-07-2008, 08:05 PM	#14 (permalink)
cheewagacheewaga Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: California Posts: 196	Re: 2 girls taking me out - boy toy??? I find it to be offensive because it hasn't really brought any positive results for me, at least the results I want in terms of taking it to a real relationship with a woman. To me, being non-threatening and too honest comes across as weak and effeminate. If these were good traits for a relationship, as you say, then I would have my pick of the ladies, but I don't. Instead I end up with a lot of female friends who see me as a nice guy male friend, like a boy toy. That's why I'm not sure what these 2 girls want from me. Do they like toying with me? I've only had 1 girlfriend, and that was back in high school when I pretended to be a bad boy skater guy. Now I'm 28 years old and truly being myself: a nerdy computer guy who loves to do introverted activities like golf, chess, and play the violin. I haven't had a date or a girlfriend since high school, and that was 10+ years ago!!! Something about me is wrong, and that much I know, since I'm the common denominator in all these failures. There are other things about me that I cannot change, or easily change, like my ethnicity, height, skin problems, and lack of money. I'm just trying to work with what I got and it's been very disappointing. So the only thing I can do is use my brain and move myself up in terms of career and money, and that's my #1 goal right now. __________________ I make over four figures a year!