hi draconis,
Thank you very much for starting a thread for me!
ok, i have sit him up many times to express how i feel, he does pay attention and says ok i'll do it from now on, then he does it a few times and no more! After reading the way u have wanted me to talk to him, i m reflecting on myself now, perhaps i have been complaining more than expressing........i'll try your advice
thanks!
My kids usually go to bed by 7.30 pm and we get some time, we also get to go out without the kids fortnightly (though not scheduled or regular) The problem is we spend that time talking about the kids, planning our house moving, financial planning etc etc..........he loves talking these stuffs but hardly even notices what i wear or my new hair style, because of this i have been feeling very down about my looks espeically after going through twin pregnancy.
You are very right, we are going through a lot of stess being a first time parent of twins, moving house, staying away and see each other only twice a month. We are married for 9 years now, and we have had wonderful relationship until kids came along. He still keeps all our first time things like (our first night hotel room receipt, the first note i wrote to him etc)
Oh my I thot u dont have kids, u have 4? u really inspire me
to work harder on my relationship.
Well, the real problem is my husband thinks at this stage of life, we should focus on the kids future and our financial security and its very irresponsible to talk about romance etc. He also thinks i m stuck at the first stage of marraige still and wants me to "grow up". I hate his mind set, why cant we romance once we have kids??
I totally agree with your that by science men are not as good as woman in communication and my husband is the extreme case
