unbelievable

Trueman, From what I can understand, it appears that you need to win back your wife's family before you have a chance with her. It sounds as if they have a great deal of influence. Your mother-in-law smiled at you and that upset you and you complained to your wife. You (and many others) were not selected during a job interview. You blamed the loss on your wife's family. Considering the obvious influence they have with her, it was a bad idea to accuse or blame them. She's had them her whole life and you only a brief period. Our cultures are obviously not alike, but my wife's family is really important to her, too. I trip over myself to be nice to them. They talk to my wife and advise her daily. I would much prefer that they be my allies rather than my enemies. Aside from that, you need a job so you can afford to live without as much family influence (if you both choose). Family money can sometimes be helpful but it comes with a heavy pricetag called "meddling".