| | Re: How do you deal with arguments?
My hubster & I have a unique way of communicating and it's sometimes physical - meaning we will have a conversation while playing a round of golf or one on one dodgeball. There's something light hearted about taking your problems out in a game! Other times we will joke with one another and lovingly "tease" each other about our faults or problems. This only works for couples that know one another's bounderies/buttons to avoid and if you're both willing & capable of being honest with yourselves. I can call myself out at times when I know I am on his ballz excessively or being a nag. ITS OK to screw up or get stressed out about life or each other but fighting & name calling or turning against each other out of laziness & denial is so wrong!!!!!
We've experimented with our communication styles and it all started when I was studying communication in college. The one thing you guys can do right now is recognize each other's communication styles and then craft a game plan or method that works for you both. Your goal should be less hurt feelings and more humility & respect no matter how you agree to do so. Think out of the box - wouldn't it be more fun to thrash into one another in blow-up sumo suits while talking about how diffficult life & family is sometimes rather than throwin cheap verbal shots in the car on the way home from dinner? =D even if my examples are silly to you- at the very least just hope you see that there are other ways beyond the conventional snoring & dilusional cat & mouse games.
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