Originally Posted by upstate_guy
And I think that maybe by asking permission I'm just being too passive when what she secretly wants is a man who just wants her so badly that he can't help himself.
Please, take it from me , someone who used to feel EXACTLY like your wife at one time-pushing him away, feeling it was gross. YES , just keep doing it when she is HOT & willing.
Now that I have gotten older, I look back on those times where he was REALLY into doing that, even when I was trying to push him away, those are some of my fondest memories sexually. I now LOVE this. Not sure what it is about some of us women, when we are younger, we are more inhibited, have not come into our full self's sexually. For me, I had too much of a "dirty" mindset regarding oral sex, very unfortunate for my husband. And myself. But I am so thankful I have a husband who has always cared to please me this way.
My guess is she is self conscious, her mind is working overdrive on how you could possibly enjoy such a thing, that is how I was. Even though I had this mental blockage, and pushed him away, I still enjoyed it. I was highly sensitive there though, maybe she is too. Give her time. I would never advise you to give up on this though. Let her passionately feel how much you "want" and "desire" her in this way, never let this die.