| | Re: What is enough?
"If you want someone to take their coat off, you have to make the sun shine on them?" WTH? The sun shone on her as she took her marriage vows and it hasn't stopped shining. How about this? "You take care of her needs because you agreed to do so and it's your job" She takes care of yours for the same reason. Nobody has to blow powder sugar up my wazoo to entice me to fulfill my responsibilities as a husband and father. I do it regardless of how I happen to feel because it's my job and I can't very well claim to love my family if I refuse to attend to their basic human needs. Besides, if I don't, the world is full of people willing and anxious to.
I don't know. It was pretty clear to me during the ceremony that certain things were going to be expected of me and sex was one of those things. The vows mentioned till death do us part but not a word about "as long as he blows your skirt up". Didn't mention anything about "as long as she doesn't gain weight" "as long as she maintains a pleasant disposition." or "as long as he doesn't get fired". Certainly, you catch more flies with honey and you should be giving at least as much to your wife as you expect in return, but there is no justifiable reason I can conceive for willfully withholding sex from one's mate and certainly not for 28 months! Would that justify a divorce? You'd better believe it!