Originally Posted by Conrad
I firmly believe that if all the attractive young women who get dogged for sex by their spouses could peer into a crystal ball and look ahead 20 years, they'd behave quite a bit differently.
By the time you "need him", you'll have trained him not to "need you".
Good luck with that.
Yeah, I agree with this!
I was very blessed /lucky. But I will never
take all the blame for our lagging sex life by any means--if he had known & lived Big Bad Wolf's advice (especially all that jealous pursuing stuff he talks about) or MEM's (outrightly telling me he NEEDED more) & many on this forum & used this behavior on me
- or even was a little like myself -- he would have gotten ALOT more -this I have no doubt. He was too self-less, too quiet about his needs / desires. I even masterbated while he slept sometimes cause I didn't want to wake him up, feeling he might prefer his sleep! Half the time I woke him up - when I told him this years later about secretly masterbating ---He was shocked !! If only, when I did wake him up, he would have been MORE VOCAL in saying "OH baby, you can do this any time, wake me up more!!" -- (He felt this way but failed to express it to me), had I had such a response, I would have NEVER went solo again. Heck, I questioned HIS sex drive !!!
Sadly, alot of missed opportunities / unspoken desires, we are both guilty. We've come a long way, we always openly talk about sex NOW. It is all gooooooood.
I have alot to teach my daughter someday about men, about pleasing their husbands. I doubt she will marry someone as laid back as her dad though, very very few like him out there.