Originally Posted by Conrad
My ex rationalized in much this same way. She figured I was just a "nice guy".
She was wrong also.
I wonder if she'd woken me up if we'd still be together.
Apparently, I needed my second wife to wake me up.
And, she has done so - in more ways than one.
Conrad, you are outrightly dumping on me ! That is alright, I can take it. I know we often speak out of our own experiences.
I seriously doubt you are anything like my husband, I am sure you expressed much more in your marriage and that is a good beautiful thing!! I am sorry she didn't respond more. I seriously doubt I am anything like your X.
Just reading your posts chokes me up, that is how much I care about my husband. If he left me over these things, well , how pathetically sad that would be. If he was a poster on here (he has no care for forums & writing) he would surely express that he , too, is guilty of not communicating better. Someone on here told me my husband is probably a "Good" guy, not necessarily a "Nice" guy.
I am very sorry for your experience. Sounds like you have moved on very well. A women to revive your drive. Good for you!!
I am one who does not always advocate for spouses to stay- no matter what -because of vows, etc. If you have tried it all to no avial, the communication & forgivness has been put out there & it is still MISERABLE, and one is suffering - I think many marriages should SPLIT, go & find a more compatible lover, by all means.
You've done just that !