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Honestly, it sounds to me like you're both wrong in one way or another. You're wrong to not pay for the property you bought; I don't know if they do it the same there as they do in the States, but you could have major problems from that down the road.
She's wrong in looking at this as basically "what's mine is mine, and what's yours is mine." She wants you to use all your money on "joint" expenses, so she can spend all her money essentially on herself. Some of it goes to her family, yes, but they're her family, so it goes under the category of her.
Personally, if this were my relationship, what would happen is all of our money would be pooled, and then all of our money would be used for the household expenses, family support, etc. that is needed. Out of what is left at the end, we would each get a certain amount that we could then spend however we wish - for her, on her shopping, for you, on your business or whatever. And if she complains that it's not enough, then she needs to seriously scale back on her shopping.
One other thought...I don't know what kind of business you're doing on your own, but I know a lot of people tend to reinvest their earnings from the business into the business until it takes off. Are you doing that? If you're not, and it's the type of business that you can do that, I would. It'll help you get it off the ground quicker, and it will also eliminate that question of whether or not you need to share it with her or can keep it for yourself. It's not necessarily a solution, but at least it delays that question for a while.
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