takris

I can relate to some of the factors in your situation. I guess I would be described also as all talk and not action also, but I think there's a reason I'm called a Bulldog at work. Its just that marriage presents some of us with these unwinnable issues. Basically, my wife only works because I will not accept no as an answer.

I started as a software designer, but the skills learned in project management suited me also to move into corporate management. Have you ever considered taking a sideways path (for less stress to yourself)?

Most would disagree and say I'm heartless for suggesting, but is it an option to begin planning to move to another state if you feel that divorce might be an option? We're talking about alot of money here. Yeah, I know the idea is way out there.

For a real suggestion, I think you're going to have to push this in small increments. Don't let up until you get some objective agreed upon. Maybe start with looking and filling out a few applications. Next might be a one day a week low stress job. She's likely just afraid since the absence has been so long.