| | Re: Wife won't work, moody
[QUOTE=Jack99;211361]Thanks for all your input. The basic message I'm getting is to stick with it, and not drop it for the sake of harmony.
Takris, I actually have thought about moving, and have suggested several options. But again it's a huge deal to her and I meet a ton of resistance. Which reminds me, maybe I should move before she gets a job.
Project management is something I have considered, but I actually find that more stressful than programming. You don't mind it, huh? QUOTE]
I only referred to project management as a skill that could help with another job. I've worked as a 6 Sigma Black belt, manufacturing engineering supervisor, and am currently a quality professional in the develpment of new products. Work for a company that has a culture of treating each other fairly. Never once heard of a manager being fired, etc.
In a subtle way, I was trying to suggest slowly, deliberately redefining yourself. Along the way, she might put her foot down and say "I'm outta here". To me, location is an option. If I divorce, your state would cost me over a million dollars. Like you, maybe, I thought we could grow together because there were aspects that I really loved. But time made it obvious that my wife, with BPD, can only think in the context of herself. I'm just suggesting that you grow to be the person you dreamed of being and don't let her be an anchor.