| | How much of a big deal is this:
I'm getting married in a few weeks and my fiance had a previous marriage (shotgun wedding) he always said was unhappy and the discussions I've heard between him and his ex proove to me they fight a lot. They fight less now and are usually civil while discussing their teen daughter, that's really the only time they talk now.
He's always said other than her (his first partner ever) he's never been with anyone else but me (we met 3 years ago). I recently looked into his divorce papers (I need a copy for our marriage license) and in the list of reasons for the divorce it says he cheated early on in their marriage and got caught.
I can see why he'd want to keep this a secret from me and I've never had trust issues before (he's always only ever been interested in me) but I feel like he lied. I will ask him about the details (I want to know her name in case she ever comes up even though we live in a different place) and I will see how forthcoming he is. We are about to get married! I don't want ANY secrets between us. How much of a big deal should this be?
It also said in the papers he used to come home inebriated and tell weird stories about where he was. The only serious issues we've ever had relate to when he drinks but I felt like it was under control now between us, it's just disconcerting to read about his previous marriage - that's to be expected I guess.