| | Re: Red flags?
If it is only the phone call thing, it is not a big deal.
What makes me think it is the fight you had before you left. What he said can make a woman really feel insecure. He can say" I am tired, I am stressed, I am worried," but if he is really sure of your relationship, what he said was inappropriate. He is not sure about your relationship.
In a relationship, don't set our expectation high, don't think they have to do this or that. Don't think that other people are doing it, why he doesn't do it. When we expect too much, we actually become very disappointed, because very often we don't get what we expect.
If we don't expect much, take it easy, focus on ourselves, give them some space, they actually appreciate who we are, then they feel they want us more.
Phone calls from a hotel room are very expensive. International phone calls are expensive. When men are traveling, there are many things going on, they tend not to pay much attention to small things.
My husband is this way. When we were dating, no matter how many days he was away( the longest was 15 days, he wouldn't call me). I knew he was like that, I just waited for him to come back patiently.
One time, something very bad happened to me when he was away, he didn't call me, he wasn't there for me, he came back, I told him, he felt very bad. I wasn't bothered, it made him feel worse, and he wanted to do more to make up for it.
In a relationship, if we feel insecure, it will cause frustration and tension. You won't be relaxed. Just remember, worrying and feeling insecure won't help you, on the contrary, it is going to create more problems.
If we take it easy, then the atmosphere is relaxed, you will enjoy it much more. Same thing when you are married.
Last edited by greenpearl; 11-23-2010 at 02:07 AM.