Originally Posted by draconis
I think you gave her many benefits of the doubt, but whatever triggered her to feel this way should be explained to you. She has been very vague from what I can tell.
You seem like a nice guy. Stay with it and see what happens.
We are here for you.
Thank you for the kind words. I just try to do what is right. I really want things to work, and as hard as it is for me, I just feel I shouldn't be giving in completely anymore. I feel bad for forcing her to make a choice, just in case there was a chance for us, but now this blows it, but I think overall with the advice of my friends and family it seems like a necessary one. The other hard part is I don't really know if she is in the right state of mind to make a life changing decision like this. She really has few good people in her life that could talk to her straight about things. I mean, even with her counselor, I don't really know what they talk about, but the counselor seems to endorse her current lifestyle.
My biggest fear is, if she does choose to have me leave, her life will spiral out of control without anyone to keep a good eye on her.
Just so many things to think about, there is really no great solution at this point. I just hope my decision to have her make a choice was as close to the right solution as possible.