Marigold

yes, to be honest he did, we had several conversations where he told me he was unhappy and why (a lot was to do with feeling disempowered - he moved countries when we got married so we went back to my country - he had to start from scratch)

I thought I was understanding and helping him to get where he wanted but he saw it as me suffocating him and taking control.....he wanted to move back to his own country with me but I dragged my feet - the reason for this was 2 things - first I was in the middle of professional training - which I now see was me putting me needs first, although I genuinely did believe that it was best in the longer term for both of us cos his career was not as stable as mine so finishing training was important - secondly from very early on I had trust issues with him....there had been times before marriage when I suspected he was unfaithful, although he didnt admit it, deep down I was very scared to move away with him......I know now that this meant that the marriage foundation was very shaky but I knew I loved him and I desperately wanted it to work....I suppose I hoped he would respect the wedding vows