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I think you need to stop focusing on who is "wrong." Figuring out who is right isn't going to solve anything for you...It's just going to make one of you feel even more smug and the other feel even more defensive and stubborn. I would suggest some counseling, because these differing opinions could largely be due to cultural differences or upbringing. Your current situation seems stressful for the both of you though, so maybe if you each revise your expectations and agree on a budget together, some problems can get fixed? I'm sorry you're under so much stress!