| | Re: Is is possible to get over an emotional affair
She can't, or won't say what he gives her that I don't or what is missing here. We really don't have it bad - new house in an excellent neighborhood, three great kids, great job (me) that allows her the option to stay home with the kids, etc... I think part of her problem is that's never enough. After 5 years of staying home with the kids she has this idea that she wants freedom - from the day to day responsibilities, to be able to make decisions without having to consider anyone else. She seems to think that running off with him will just make things easier, and that's what her heart is telling her to do (did I mention he is recently divorced). She likes the newness, change, excitement - all things that are really hard to come by in a 10 year old marriage with three young kids. I know of some things that I have let go over the years that I am working on, but as of the time she ran out, she said we were having problems that I wasn't even aware of.
She's also very quick to run away from challenges and take the easy road out. The hardest part of the last two months has been getting her to actually do something and work on us. She has this idea that she can just wait for 6 months and see if things get better at home without actually trying to make a change.