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scarletblue · 12-06-2010, 08:49 AM

I was with my ex-husband for about 18 years. We have 4 children. He cheated on me many times throughout our relationship. I would always forgive him and take him back.

When I told him I wanted a divorce, he couldn't accept it. He was so used to me forgiving him, that he couldn't even comprehend the fact that I was done. He even said "You forgave me every other time. You're supposed to forgive me now." He figured it would be like it had been before. He'd have to swollow his pride, eat some crow, treat me really well for a while....rinse....repeat.

Only you know if you'e truely "done". You need to decide what you will and will not put up with. You need to decide what is best for your kids and yourself. Divorce is hard, and can get really ugly. My divorce was a year and a half of hell. For me it was worth it. Although things were rocky with the kids for a while, my relationship with them is 100 times better now.

My best advice to you is not to take this decision lightly. Don't make a decision based solely on your emotions at the moment, because sometimes they change. Really think this through.

My best wishes to you.

12-06-2010, 08:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
scarletblue Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Washington State Posts: 455	Re: Cheating Husband got caught 2times, dont know what to do I got 3children I was with my ex-husband for about 18 years. We have 4 children. He cheated on me many times throughout our relationship. I would always forgive him and take him back. When I told him I wanted a divorce, he couldn't accept it. He was so used to me forgiving him, that he couldn't even comprehend the fact that I was done. He even said "You forgave me every other time. You're supposed to forgive me now." He figured it would be like it had been before. He'd have to swollow his pride, eat some crow, treat me really well for a while....rinse....repeat. Only you know if you'e truely "done". You need to decide what you will and will not put up with. You need to decide what is best for your kids and yourself. Divorce is hard, and can get really ugly. My divorce was a year and a half of hell. For me it was worth it. Although things were rocky with the kids for a while, my relationship with them is 100 times better now. My best advice to you is not to take this decision lightly. Don't make a decision based solely on your emotions at the moment, because sometimes they change. Really think this through. My best wishes to you.