Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - I dont want my marriage to end but I screwed up

want2behappy · 12-06-2010, 10:28 AM

Hello,
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About a year and a half ago my husband and I split for a brief time and I got myself in a mess with someone. I am not a sexual personal at all but somehow when we separated my hormones were raging and I went to Florida and visited his cousin and her husband. Her husband (John) started coming on to me and I dont know what the hell got into me but I ended up sending him explicit sexual texts. About a day after I realized the nonsense I was doing and told him I don't want to go there with him and it was a mistake and I dont know what I was thinking. We never touched, kissed or was intimate at all, all we had were sexual conversations and about two texts which took place over about a week.

John got mad when I told him I dont want to be involved with him and said he wasnt deleting the texts and its his to do whatever he wants. Well I have been paranoid ever since because I thought he would tell his wife or my husband but then I was thinking he wouldnt want to ruin his marriage for me esp since he never had sex with me.I was wrong - he sent the texts to my husband and phone records to back it up and all this time my husband has been holding it in waiting for me to come clean.

He finally confronted me with it this weekend and of course I didnt want to admit to it in the beginning so that made me look like a liar. He told my husband that I had sex with him and my husband believes him because he said that no one would be so obsessed or go to such lengths without having sex with me - I dont blame him because I would think the same. Now he says he doesnt love me anymore and checked out of the marriage about 2 years ago. I begged him to give us until our anniversary in Feb but he never really answered me and wants to breakup. I dont want my marriage to end but I dont think that 2 months is enough.

I dont want to end my marriage but I dont think 2 months is enough to work it out and my husband just wants to call it quits. Do you think I should hang in for the 2 months to see what happens?

Thanks so much for reading my post.

12-06-2010, 10:28 AM	#1 (permalink)
want2behappy Registered User Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 5	I dont want my marriage to end but I screwed up Hello, - About a year and a half ago my husband and I split for a brief time and I got myself in a mess with someone. I am not a sexual personal at all but somehow when we separated my hormones were raging and I went to Florida and visited his cousin and her husband. Her husband (John) started coming on to me and I dont know what the hell got into me but I ended up sending him explicit sexual texts. About a day after I realized the nonsense I was doing and told him I don't want to go there with him and it was a mistake and I dont know what I was thinking. We never touched, kissed or was intimate at all, all we had were sexual conversations and about two texts which took place over about a week. John got mad when I told him I dont want to be involved with him and said he wasnt deleting the texts and its his to do whatever he wants. Well I have been paranoid ever since because I thought he would tell his wife or my husband but then I was thinking he wouldnt want to ruin his marriage for me esp since he never had sex with me.I was wrong - he sent the texts to my husband and phone records to back it up and all this time my husband has been holding it in waiting for me to come clean. He finally confronted me with it this weekend and of course I didnt want to admit to it in the beginning so that made me look like a liar. He told my husband that I had sex with him and my husband believes him because he said that no one would be so obsessed or go to such lengths without having sex with me - I dont blame him because I would think the same. Now he says he doesnt love me anymore and checked out of the marriage about 2 years ago. I begged him to give us until our anniversary in Feb but he never really answered me and wants to breakup. I dont want my marriage to end but I dont think that 2 months is enough. I dont want to end my marriage but I dont think 2 months is enough to work it out and my husband just wants to call it quits. Do you think I should hang in for the 2 months to see what happens? Thanks so much for reading my post.