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Intruder · 12-06-2010, 05:40 PM

Well, here I am....finally posting. I'm guessing the holidays have me down, the helplessness has me down.

In July, my wife and I seperated. It has a few key steps, she left because she felt trapped, then it turned into the ILYBIANILWY, and now we are in the I don't love you and probably never did.

A little backstory on the marriage, no physical or mental abuse either way, when we 1st got married we were broke, we worked our way from an apartment to a house...not a big house, but a house. We got along great, as we moved along and got better financially, we had 2 great kids.

Here is where things started to get odd, my wife wasn't the same person after the 2nd (he is 2 now). She didn't want to talk, but her mood changed everywhere...from work to home. She went to see a Dr, and he prescribed something for her, which she said wasn't working and quit taking.

Last Thanksgiving until the summer she was confrontational and secretive...UH OH right? Well I trusted my wife, and didn't make a big deal out of it. I love my wife dearly, I believe she is my soul mate.

We had a great vacation at the beach, came home and went to a wedding the next day that was among her friends from work. We took the boys to see fireworks, put them to bed and she dropped the feeling trapped and moved out the next day.

From the day she left, she has rewritten everything about our marriage, alot of it is almost comical. She loves to get jabs in on how she doesn't love me, this is best for the boys, she never knew how unhappy she was until she was away from me...all very painful and hurtful to hear.

I'm a great Dad and Husband, I have devoted all my time right now to my young boys (my parents passed when I was very young). I always have something fun planned with them, and I miss them dearly when they aren't with me. People I tell that I am seperated and getting a divorce can't believe it, we seemed happy, I never said a cross word about her then and even now.

Is there another guy? Not that I can verify, but I would stake my reputation on it.

When she left, I gave her space, didn't bug, beg, text, etc. When she left, she never looked back, not once.

I guess I am here to seek advice.

My marriage is over, I have accepted I can't make someone love me.

I still love my wife and probably always will, I am having a hard time accepting she doesn't love me, has wrecked our family and rewrote what was a great marriage and made it into a joke.

Why the hateful words?

12-06-2010, 05:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
Intruder Registered User Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 27	Random thoughts/words of wisdom needed Well, here I am....finally posting. I'm guessing the holidays have me down, the helplessness has me down. In July, my wife and I seperated. It has a few key steps, she left because she felt trapped, then it turned into the ILYBIANILWY, and now we are in the I don't love you and probably never did. A little backstory on the marriage, no physical or mental abuse either way, when we 1st got married we were broke, we worked our way from an apartment to a house...not a big house, but a house. We got along great, as we moved along and got better financially, we had 2 great kids. Here is where things started to get odd, my wife wasn't the same person after the 2nd (he is 2 now). She didn't want to talk, but her mood changed everywhere...from work to home. She went to see a Dr, and he prescribed something for her, which she said wasn't working and quit taking. Last Thanksgiving until the summer she was confrontational and secretive...UH OH right? Well I trusted my wife, and didn't make a big deal out of it. I love my wife dearly, I believe she is my soul mate. We had a great vacation at the beach, came home and went to a wedding the next day that was among her friends from work. We took the boys to see fireworks, put them to bed and she dropped the feeling trapped and moved out the next day. From the day she left, she has rewritten everything about our marriage, alot of it is almost comical. She loves to get jabs in on how she doesn't love me, this is best for the boys, she never knew how unhappy she was until she was away from me...all very painful and hurtful to hear. I'm a great Dad and Husband, I have devoted all my time right now to my young boys (my parents passed when I was very young). I always have something fun planned with them, and I miss them dearly when they aren't with me. People I tell that I am seperated and getting a divorce can't believe it, we seemed happy, I never said a cross word about her then and even now. Is there another guy? Not that I can verify, but I would stake my reputation on it. When she left, I gave her space, didn't bug, beg, text, etc. When she left, she never looked back, not once. I guess I am here to seek advice. My marriage is over, I have accepted I can't make someone love me. I still love my wife and probably always will, I am having a hard time accepting she doesn't love me, has wrecked our family and rewrote what was a great marriage and made it into a joke. Why the hateful words?