Originally Posted by ula
I can truly and really feel for you....and I don't know if that's comforting as it was for me reading your feelings...I'm living something alike. My husband has 3 daughters and even though they are grown up they are so dependent of him and calling everyday and he's such a doting parent....and I feel excluded, isolated and plain jelous of having my man adoring other women even if they are his daughters....besides all the attentions and sweetness and energy they robbed me from him, is the amount of money they squeeze from him too....vacations, gifts, etc.....i feel left out and behind in all of that, and he has such a hard time understanding it...I'm suffering so so so much since we get into horrible arguments over this and I'm very explosive and actually say hurting things that later I regret and it just causes even more pain...
I don't know if is just that saying that misery loves company, the fact is knowing there is someone else out there feelings as I do helps me donot feel I'm just going crazy....hope it helps you too
i am same,sam feelings, although ur situation is worse,cause my hubby keep distance from them,i asked him why and he sais i cant bond with them cause she might take them away,or he feels bad if he bonds and they have to leave again so he keeps distance...and when the ex cheated he freaked out so he dont give so much child support.in a way i saw him not being into it so much so i decided to involve with him an i may survive the storm,but still is hurtfull like hell!i cant beleive i will be connected to that lunatic family all my life!i never knew them i never did and i will never want to know them!i never did something wrong in my life and i have to pay really a lot emotionaly now!i feel a costant threat,and i get explosive as u say...to the point having black outs often!i never cried so often whole my life!i see their pics and i get so sadd an other woman keeps a part of my husband and has control i hate it so much!other people have right on my beloved husband!i never dreamed and i suppose no woman dreams have husband share him,with kids of ex wife,what we tought from life and see around usually is hubby and wife and nobody else thats the ideal cause i come from greece and here is rare see that situation family is more traditional, but my hubb is dutch and there is more mess!
when too much people get into the picture is sofocating and hurtful!its the most akward situation,i think single women with no kids never have to marry a guy with kids...or those men have to stay single and raise those ex kids from broken family, if they dont want trouble with the new wife,its way less complicated.its not ment to be divorce!its not a natural situation and cause huge trouble,i think few women are open minded to have step kid.
i came to the point jealouse of all other couples they are married together with own kids and nobody else....no exes no kids from exes nothing to bother i get so sad....
my sis in law has a nice hubby and one kid and i get so envy of it,i am raised in a normal family with two parents i never saw anycouple in my situation for 29 years of my life so i cant get it!
when i have to see my hub kids i freak out so much see 3 things run!from an other woman i get a freaking akward feeling!i start shake all over and i cry for at least 3 days after every time i see them ,and gets worse n worse first i could stand it now that i am married,its more hurtful!all my friends and parents were against it cause they think i deserve better than this,i was geting hurt by them also cause my hubby is so nice person,,I GUESS they said it cause i was single and i dont deserve being into the **** of other people.and that i deserve a new life from zero!to make kids of my own and put them in better situation not in a mess fanancialy n emotionaly...,i never harmed any body and i never reacted so freaked out ever in my life i never harmed a fly,so i dunno i guess it come from guts insticts???i cant give explaination WHAT I CAN SAY I HATE DIVORCE I WISH IT DIDNT EXIST
i was geting hurt by them also cause my hubby is so nice person,