| | Re: My wife is cheating on me because of my handicap
Lots of issues here, but the bottom line is yes, you need to talk to her. Frankly, I understand why you used the camera but I don't think she will so maybe you just have to tell her that you know about him.
Don't make the discussion "Did you or didn't you?" but "What do we do from here?"
But before you do, you need to know what your position will be.
Are you willing for your wife to have a lover (including unprotected sex)?
Are you willing to have sex with her while she does?
Are you willing to be celibate if she is getting sexually fulfilled elsewhere?
Are you willing to risk the chance that the physical affair becomes a love affair and you are looking in from the outside?
You may not have all the answers but you should have a general position in mind when you start down this road.