Originally Posted by Deejo
Because you are reading about and interpreting thoughts and behavior in the clubhouse - and injecting bias
into the equation.
But when you come face to face with the behavior, when you personally experience it, it doesn't register. And that baby ... is why it works. Your husband is brilliant for agreeing with you that those sorry bastards on TAM are full of crap
You dropped Facebook friends because your husband asked, you thought it was a reasonable request. You love and respect him.
Plenty of other posters here who have likely made the same exact request, with a very different outcome.
That is who he is though, he hasn't trained himself to become something he's not in order to get a certain behavior from me.
I'm not sure but I think you are saying that my husband is manipulating me but is so good at it that I don't see it. So when he agrees with me he is actually playing a game with me? He thinks what is said here is true but won't admit it?
Those are major leaps. Is it not equally possible that he flat out agrees with me? That he really does think love is possible and can be true?
You read N.U.T.S and I read The Gift of the Magi. We define love differently. I think it is not practiced and rehearsed but natural and spontaneous.
I agree with you, Deejo, on something very big here. I agree that if it works for anyone and they end up in a happy relationship with their spouse then that is great.