| | Re: Common Problem?
I think people have a warped view of love these days. Romance novels, movies, TV shows all give us this idea that you should be in that honeymoon phase forever. They essentially tell us that the honeymoon phase is love. I look at my grandparents, and my parents, who've been married 62 and 34 years respectively, as my examples of love and commitment. My grandmother has told me before that she simply doesn't believe in divorce; said she removed it from her dictionary because if she didn't, she'd have divorced my grandpa two days in, and this leaves her with only killing him as an option, and she doesn't like the thought of jail, so... LOL
Seriously, though, I look at them. They drive each other crazy sometimes, they fight and make up, they have differing opinions, they frustrate each other. And in the end, they still go to bed together every night and get up together every morning, knowing that they love each other and that even if they don't feel that long quite so strongly now, it's still there.
My boyfriend and I are having a pretty rough time right now. I love him, and I know he loves me. It's not the same as it was in the very beginning, and it never will be. But, I believe that once we work through our problems and get our relationship back on solid ground, the love will be stronger than it's ever been. But it will never be that honeymoon phase love again. That would only occur again if we got new relationships, and we're both more commitment minded people.