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Old 12-14-2010, 02:40 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by vthomeschoolmom View Post
I didn't realize I wasn't!
I couldn't make my ex understand this when she thought everything was great and I thought we were going to hell in a handbasket.

Sex is the greatest affirmation a guy can get that his woman approves of and loves him.

When we start jumping through hoops ... unsuccessfully to make this happen, it's a bad sign.

But ... those smiles, those gestures, those playful hugs or caresses can be equally affirming that "everything's ok. I love you."

Remove those and sex ... and you have a co-worker or colleague, not a spouse. I'm projecting, so keep that in mind. Now however, we have a different dynamic. Instead of asking her for reassurance, I just tell her; "You should smile more. It suits you." She is now VERY aware that she just doesn't give off the warm fuzzies most of the time. And I know it has nothing to do with me.

He's telling you what he's feeling, are you telling him that you feel like those statements are 'pressure'?

Hopefully the two of you can reach a satisfactory detente while you are on the mend.

And I don't know what everyone is talking about, I've always found you to be delicate, demure and soft-spoken.
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