sienna

Hi ladies...I hope you dont mind a bit of an outsiders perspective on everything I have been reading in your above posts?
I am not in the same situation in that my husband is not controlling at all, in fact he is the complete opposite, and sometimes I wish he would just care enough to ask where I am or who I am with etc. However I dont envy you at all.
Now I dont have kids yet either, so I am not trying to tell you how to be good mothers (what would I know), but I can tell you from experience that children look to their parents relationship as a role model for all the future relationships they have. Whether is be on a conscious level or not they will compare every relationship they have (whether it be love or friendship) to your relationship. Your relationship will be the "normal" relationship to them. And then they will chose what they do or dont want from that. However if they see you constantly tip toeing around your husbands, doing whatever he wants just to make him happy, constantly putting yourself after him, then they will take alot away from that, that may result in them living a similar life to you one day.
I am not telling you to leave your husbands, all I am saying is be the role model for your kids that you would want to be. So if that means putting your foot down around your husband more often or not letting him treat you that way, or sorry to say it, leaving him, then that may be what you have to do.
Hope this has given you something.
All the best