Originally Posted by BigBadWolf
But IF they are important, trying to bury them under the guise of being "noble" will not bring the emotional connection of addressing them, and will instead fuel resentment.
Yes, I agree,not guising it,cloaking it in being 'noble' or to be ethical or to be moralistic (not that having principles, values, and ethics aren't important, they are); in other words under an identity. Instead to really get under all the stuff and see clearly; be nakedly honest, real, raw, but with an open heart and with compassion.
Edited for clarification.