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Oh yeah I tell her all the time. She doesn't believe me though. She only believes that I'm with her to fill my loneliness, that I used her to rebound, and now that my Ex doesn't want me that I choose her.

My ex has told me a few times that if it wasn't for my g/f we would have gotten back together.This isn't true, I left her because I was tired of being treated the way I was. True its another mistake, I never filed for a divorce. Both my ex and I are military, I chose to be stationed in another state, far enough that I could live alone but close enough I could drive up and see the kids on the weekends. It was nearly a year after I moved my ex said she didn't feel anything, but wanted to stay married for a few years. We decided to get co-location orders so we could always be in the same city for sake of the kids.

Well close to a year into the relationship with my g/f (we were living with each other at this point) my ex confessed she had gotten the orders to move down here twice but didn't take them. When I told my g/f, she wanted to know why I was still holding onto the marriage. A lot of the reasons I did the things I did, was because even though we had been separated for 2 years, and had an agreement about staying married for co-location, my ex was pulling the adultery card. Threatening to get me in trouble with my command, and not letting me see the kids. And yeah the easy fix would be to file for a divorce, I figured that filing would piss my ex off more to the point where she would actually do something.

Sadly I think about it, and I know more than likely if I had been divorced when we went to the jewelery store I would have asked her. She won't live on 'ifs' though I know.