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Old 12-21-2010, 10:48 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Default Re: HELP--Wife not affectionate enough, getting to be a big Issue!

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Originally Posted by Beverley View Post
Rather than criticizing her for not wanting to have sex (which will only make matters worse) have you tried helping out with the chores that are bogging her down? Maybe if you share them, she won't be so tired and stressed.
Helping is always a good thing ... but

You need to be careful before diving headlong into helping out. Women consistently say they would love it if their husbands helped out more ... but when they do, it does NOT translate into appreciation and affection. Quite often they presume that you are ONLY helping because you want to get laid, and they instead pull away more. Again, information for you to process based upon your current circumstances.

You would be better served by taking actions for her benefit without consulting her. Round up the kids and take them out to give mom a break. If there are tasks that she consistently has to ask you or remind you to do ... start doing them proactively without her having to coach you. This is a HUGE turnoff when they have to treat you like one of the kids.

Do these things because you should, not because you hope she will notice and throw herself at you. It's a process.
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