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My Ex filed for a divorce in January. I told her it was ridiculous to have us stay married when she wasn't going to follow through with the co-location. I was sending her more than enough money for child support, but in the property settlement agreement she wanted 50% of my pay, I was letting her have everything. 2 months before she broke up with me I shelled out $20k (my father passed away in June 2005) towards a brand new truck for her, paid off all of our debts. I wasn't going to fight for anything, I just wanted it over with, but there was no way I could afford to give her half of my pay each month.

I got a lawyer who suggested we keep the children and the divorce separate issues so that we could get the divorce over with. My ex called me saying it would cost her more money cause she'd have to re-file and I didn't want her spending more, so I went along with what she wanted yet again. It prolonged things... Nothing has been changed.

Actually things have gotten even worse as far as that goes. 2 months ago my ex got kicked out of the military for being over-weight, and has decided to try and stay married for medical and retirement benefits. I can't really give her a date on which I'll be divorced. It could go on until January 2009. I definitely know that if the divorce doesn't happen sometime this year she'll leave. And if I add my ex as a dependent after the $17k in medical bills she has for having the baby, who knows. I am not planning on adding her just so you know, my lawyer said a judge might force me to though.

I destroyed a very happy person. The things I've done were wrong, and I know I don't deserve her, and I know she's hanging on here cause she doesn't feel secure enough to be on her own yet. She was living in Colorado to take care of her mom and going to school, when her mom passed away she drove half way across the country to live with me. She did the things people do when they love someone, and all I did was keep her on a back burner.