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Old 12-30-2010, 02:07 PM   #5 (permalink)
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When I first met my now Ex husband he did not even have a personal email address and he was still writting checks to pay bills(in Canada we are big on online banking). Since I was the one more up with computer technology, I signed him up on yahoo, facebook, linkedin, set up his online billing for different bills even though some of them were his bills paid by him most of time. He never ever objected if I accessed any of these but he also never asked me NOT to look at his email. About 2 years ago I even created this spreadsheet so we had all the passwords/usernames handy just in case one of us needed to do something online. So never any issue on that.

When his affair started all of a sudden he started changing passwords. First he changed his Marriott reward username(he was not really smart because he never changed the password) and that's because I later found 13 hotel stays at two local Marriotts, he put a password on his blackberry and he has never had one in more than 5 years and I have never had a reason to even look at that. He also started getting possessive over his cell phones(like taking them EVERYWHERE).

When I started suspecting the affair there was no trace left on any of the credit cards I had access to except to one that he just got end of 2009 and I had not put any of the info on our joint spreadsheet. Of course when I got into that I found plenty of proof of his affair.

So if privacy is something you have set out from the beginning fine but if you have cheated sorry you lost that priviledge.
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