Originally Posted by RandomDude
That was 4-5 years ago and before marriage which we have "mostly" already overcome. And even then it was a drunken one-night-stand with a 'friend' at a party that to be honest I don't even remember much of.
Aye, but I've never changed in this.
No - but you gave your wife reason to not trust you. I'm not sure what "almost" over things would mean.
I would say at this point, if your wife thinks its a problem, then its a problem.
Is this a change she's pushing for? If so, can you come up with a counter-offer, or some reasonable alternative?
Many people on this board feel that transparency is necessary with both partners to overcome something like this. I've not pushed as hard with my wife. She made a reasonable case for maintaining some privacy.
I don't go "nosing" through her phone, but she will show me what she's doing if I ask. I don't have her e-mail password, but she no longer closes the window on the computer if I peek over her shoulder. Basically - if I feel she's acting suspicious, she's been willing to put me at ease. But that won't work for everyone.