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Thewife · 11-06-2007, 07:59 AM

Kajira & draconis,
yes I agree, but the thing in our relationship is, we were the most romantic couples for 7 years before the kids came in. He will call me at least twice a day (he hates writing) to tell me how much he loves me, and i will never forget to write him a note, sms him or email him how much i love and appreciate all that he is doing for me. I learnt to watch football for him and he learnt to enjoy trekking with me, there's not a single thing in that 7 years he had never refused to buy me anything i have wanted. He always ensures that i get all the best things and he doesnt really spend much on himself. Now he had totally changed or fatherhood had changed him??? We hardly talk abt love or romance, to make matter worst he wants the kids to sleep in our room (tho i have set up a nice room for them) this makes even harder for any intimacy

The only thing that has not changed about him still is he still ensures i get whatever i and the kids want (materialistic). Sometimes when i read in this forum about men who are selfish etc i feel quilty for complaining about my husband, but romance is very important to me, even if not really romance i defenitely need some attention because i got it a lot before the kids came in.

One more thing i want to add on to my problem is, at this point of our life where i feel romance is lacking, i feel that he looks twice at young girls on the road, its not just i feel he really does, this is something new in him, he had never done this before, this is really bothering me and i start to feel very down at times wondering if he's bored with me? or am i not good looking anymore

I really feel very depressed sometimes, do u all think that i m worrying for nothing?? if so please tell me, i feel like i need some counselling right now!

Thanks for reading!

11-06-2007, 07:59 AM	#10 (permalink)
Thewife Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 74	Re: For Thewife Kajira & draconis, yes I agree, but the thing in our relationship is, we were the most romantic couples for 7 years before the kids came in. He will call me at least twice a day (he hates writing) to tell me how much he loves me, and i will never forget to write him a note, sms him or email him how much i love and appreciate all that he is doing for me. I learnt to watch football for him and he learnt to enjoy trekking with me, there's not a single thing in that 7 years he had never refused to buy me anything i have wanted. He always ensures that i get all the best things and he doesnt really spend much on himself. Now he had totally changed or fatherhood had changed him??? We hardly talk abt love or romance, to make matter worst he wants the kids to sleep in our room (tho i have set up a nice room for them) this makes even harder for any intimacy The only thing that has not changed about him still is he still ensures i get whatever i and the kids want (materialistic). Sometimes when i read in this forum about men who are selfish etc i feel quilty for complaining about my husband, but romance is very important to me, even if not really romance i defenitely need some attention because i got it a lot before the kids came in. One more thing i want to add on to my problem is, at this point of our life where i feel romance is lacking, i feel that he looks twice at young girls on the road, its not just i feel he really does, this is something new in him, he had never done this before, this is really bothering me and i start to feel very down at times wondering if he's bored with me? or am i not good looking anymore I really feel very depressed sometimes, do u all think that i m worrying for nothing?? if so please tell me, i feel like i need some counselling right now! Thanks for reading!