Originally Posted by southbound
Speaking of the childrearing days, my ex is 38 and our children are ages 9 and 11; is it unusual that she may be experiencing the mid life crisis with kids this age? It's not as though she is going to be totally free to sow her oats.
I wouldn't try to analyze your wife...there are too many possibles here. Maybe married life (and motherhood) aren't all she thought they were cracked up to be. Maybe she got bored and lonely. Anything is possible. I understand why you're trying to look back...but your wife is just one woman out of many. We're really not a "one size fits all" species, in spite of what someone might think. In all honesty I think if you keep trying to figure out what the heck happened, you're going to go nuts. I'd simply accept it for what it seemingly is, and go forward from here. I imagine none of this turned out the way you anticipated. But this is the hand you've been dealt. Play them well.