| | Re: Here is my situation. What do I do now?
Ok, sorry I haven't been on here to update anything. Here is what what happened.
While I was typing up the long original post, my wife was on her computer emailing the guy the whole time. Little did she know, I had put a keylogger on her computer that morning. We had some friends come over for a little new years eve get together so I didn't have a chance to check on her. After everyone had left my wife went into our room to watch tv and wind down. this was about 11:00 pm or so. So while she was watching tv, I logged onto her computer to see what she had been doing.
When I pulled up all of the emails that she had been sending and receiving, I was furious. The wife and the guy were talking about wishing they could be together that night. I would like to say that I walked into the room with her and confronted her calmly, but that would be a lie. I grabbed her camera that she takes professional photos with and walked into the room and started swinging it round and round and then smashed it on the floor into hundreds of little pieces. then I took her iphone and threw it into the wall (I tried to break it with just my hands but it was in one of those Otterboxes. Those things are tough).
She asked me what the hell i was doing so I just gave her the email address that she was using to communicate with him. I asked her how she thought that she was going to get away with it and why was she doing this to our family. She didn't have any answers.
I then go outside to call the guys wife. When she answered i told her my name and asked her if she remebered me from our previous conversation. Whe she told me she did I just started telling her everything that I knew. She wanted me to get a copy of all of the emails that they had been sending to one another and I told her that i would. She and I talked about an hour later and the guy was in the car with her. I got on the phone with him and told him exactly what I thought of him.
Back to the wife. So as I was talking to the guy and his wife, my buddy had come over and was trying to talk to my wife about why she was doing what she was doing. She said she didn't know why she was doing what she was doing. She admitted to having feelings for the guy, and would all but say that she was in love with him. But what she wanted was her family, including me. She wanted to work everything out. I told her that i wasn't interested in sharing her with another man, not physically or menatally.
Not that this is a reason for her doing what she did, but I think that she suffers from Post Partum Deppression. i took her to the doctor yesterday and the doctor wanted me to take her to be evaluated by a proffesional. The wife wasn't very keen on that because she thought that I would get there and have her committed for a couple oof days against her will. So she called her OB and set up an appointment for today to have bloodwork done to see if her hormones were all messed up. Something definately has to be wrong with her mentally. Nothing she does is making any sense. She has a councelling session tonight as well.
This whole time that since Friday night she has been saying that she wants me and her family, but her actions don't show it. She just acts like she is in a funk. She says that she knows she can be happy with me and that i can make her happy, she just doesn't know how to go about moving past everthing anymore.
I got my two girls (4 and 3) from their little playdate today and we three loaded up and went to the camp which is about 45 minutes away. I plan on staying up here for just a couple of days to try and figure out what to do and give her some time to see how things are going to be if she doesn't start doing what she needs to do.
Any advice would be great right now. Sorry if I am all over the place with this post. It's been a rough few days.