Andrea

I can understand how you would be humiliated by the whole situation, yes. But i can also see why she would be upset too. To put it simply, you lied to her about your motives behind your dr visit. In all honesty, i would be upset too that my husband had an issue and didnt tell me. Wether it be small or big, to me it doesnt matter. I personally would NEVER humiliate either. If i humiliated my husband, then i could see where he wouldnt tell me. Put yourself in her shoes.

Here was my scenario a while back. I went to my ob/gyn for my yearly girl thing and it came back that i could have cancer cells in my cervix. and I had to go back for a follow up. Would my husband be pissed that I didnt tell him? heck yea! Wouldnt you? Even though it had nothing to do with him, i told him. He was concerned but never humiliated me or belittle me about it. Turns out it was nothing.

Honesty is key in every relationship.